Why your words matter.

It is no surprise that the way we speak to our children is vital to our relationship with them. Telling them that you love them makes them feel safe and gives them a sense of security in the world. Telling them how smart and clever they are when they reach a new milestone instills a sense of confidence and self belief. Saying how beautiful they are can make them feel special and excited.

There are wonderful parents everywhere saying beautiful things to their children. While all these compliments are expressions of love and have a vital role in the raising of our children; sometimes not enough information is out there on the power of particular words.

Our first example will be with the word “Proud”

In no world would anyone question the intentions when you say to your child “I am so proud of you!”

When we tell our children we are proud of them it is important to take note of the brain receiving that message. Questions to ask yourself next time you want to express pride:

- who has ownership over the achievement?

- what is the motivation in their accomplishment?

In saying to a child “wow you must be so proud of yourself” we install self pride, confidence and ownership of their hard work and achievement, autonomy and desire to show up for themselves, not someone else.

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